Finding Balance in the 24/7 always on world

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I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Gihan Perera. He's well known for his expertise in helping thought leaders leverage their social media presence. In fact, Forbes Magazine listed him as the 5th most influential person, world wide in social media publishing.

In the full interview (70 min), we discussed many issues for business leaders including loyalty, making tech decisions, building connections and relationships. One of the highlights of the interview was our discussion about finding balance in the always on world.

He gives some great tips about managing the balance in "Your Life, Your Rules".

Multiplied by Apathy

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Apathy: a lack of passion, interest and concern. 

We are built to Thrive and Adapt. Despite the fact that change is challenging, we are good at it. Our human desire to continuously improve our condition, leads us to think, solve problems and create. Creating more of something, making it better, or easier have been drivers of change throughout human history. 
When we can see the vision for change and we have a sense of choice and control over it, it motivates and excites us. High quality change is actually one of the ultimate engagement strategies.
People need to feel a sense of progress with change. If it is taking too long, is unclear or is not generating something more, better or easier - then change is just wearing. Change fatigue sets in. Resistance too. Apathy soon follows.
Apathy replaces resistance. People eventually don’t care enough to resist. Fatigue is multiplied by Apathy.
The more Apathy there is, the harder it will be to make future changes. You will have to create enough momentum to overcome the inertia of built up an entrenched Apathy.
Here’s some questions that will help create engagement about change.
Why are we changing this? Get really clear about the why. Does it sound interesting and compelling. If not it’s unlikely that it will get anywhere. Would it get you out of bed in the morning? Can you explain it to others in a way that makes sense to them?
Will it create more, make life easier somehow, or be better than what we have now? 
What are some quick “wins” that will give you and your people a sense of progress and control over the change?
When people are apathetic, they often get the blame. Blame is easy and takes the pressure and focus off the person doing the blaming. What if we asked ourselves,

“How can I make this situation more meaningful, engaging and important to and for the people involved?”

Here’s to Change and the wonders we create! 

Expectations Part II

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Expectations alter Reality

In Expectations Part I we explored how expectations kill people.

But expectations have another, perhaps more powerful function.They bend reality to meet us.

Research and anecdotal evidence shows that many people in survival situations stay alive against incredible odds, sometimes even defying medical science. It would be reasonable to think that they are people who are physically tough, or better trained for the situation that they face. The reality is far more interesting – the one thing they have in common is that they expect to survive.

Here’s an example from “Unbroken”, Laura Hillenbrand’s recent biography of Louie Zamparini. quote describes Louie's experience lost at sea on a life raft for 47days with 2 crew mates in 1943, after being shot down over the Pacific.

“Though all three men faced the same hardship, their differing perceptions of it appeared to be shaping their fates. Louie and Phil's hope displaced their fear and inspired them to work toward their survival, and each success renewed their physical and emotional vigour. Mac's resignation seemed to paralyse him and the less he participated in their efforts to survive, the more he slipped. Though he did the least, as the days passed, it was he who faded the most. Louie and Phil's optimism, and Mac's hopelessness, were becoming self-fulfilling.”

Mac passed away, while the other two survived their ordeal.

What does this link between expectation and survival mean to us in the modern world? Check out the diagram below…




Zamparini intended to survivive. He expected events to unfold to support his intention. He gave his attention to the evidence that suggested he was right, and to the actions that supported his intention.

You and I have intentions and expectations everyday, in every area of our lives, whether we are aware of them or not. They giude and focus our attention. For the greatest liklihood of success, all three factors need to be concious and work in harmony with each other.

Asking yourself these questions will assist in bringing them into your concious mind:

What is my intention? (check yourself for clarity and alignment)
What are my expectations in this situation?

Now give your attention to the actions and mindsets that serve you best in this moment, and watch as reality begins to take shape around you according to your expectations.

Why this Blog

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Despite the challenges of change, we have all met people who seem to Thrive and Adapt, regardless of what is happening around them. They are able to tap into vast resources of energy, they spread calm in the face of uncertainty, and they are joyful and enthusiastic and create opportunities for themselves and those around them. We see them in business and personal life, surmounting seeming insurmountable challenges and positively radiating through the experience. Some of that is a result of personal disposition, however a lot of it comes down to skills that can be learned and practiced.

 I'm passionate about creating people, leaders, organisations and communities that thrive and adapt. 

 Thrive and Adapt shares my own thinking as well as considered and quality information from other sources. I'm glad you can join me on that journey.